How to Eliminate the Stressors
Every day there are things that cause us stress. These can range from mild setbacks, to workloads, to family and friends. Stress is a way of life, and it’s going to happen no matter what stage of life you are in. The only thing that we can do is manage the stress, and reduce it as soon as it pops up. We can eliminate almost all of it by carefully monitoring how we react to it.
Now it is important to note that stress and adversity are not the same. Recently in a Biz to Biz meeting we talked about how we handle adversity. I commented that I define adversity as something much worse than stress. Adversity pops up every few months; stress comes daily.
Stress Doesn’t Actually Exist
Outside of yourself, there is no such thing as stress. Think about that for a minute. Stress is something that you have completely made up internally. It’s your reaction to an outside influence. When we know that stress is our own creation, we can use that to our advantage when we eliminate it.
The Illusion of Partially Controllable Events
Not long ago I talked about the illusion of partially controllable events. In that article I explained that there are things we can control (and that is not much more than our attitude toward situations), and there are things that we absolutely cannot control (an easy example is the weather outside). The illusion is that by changing how we act and react, and then maybe we can influence the uncontrollable events. All that does is create stress when we simply cannot impart the influence we seem to think we have on those events.
Let Go of the Stressors
In a business sense, this is what causes the most stress: we feel overwhelmed. We have all of this work to do, some that we don’t think we can actually handle. Some of the work is over our heads, some is outside our current capabilities, and some we simply don’t have the tools for it. Those outside influence turn into stress when we internalize them. Here’s how to get rid of them.
“But Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26 (ESV)
God is in control. When you stop trying to control that which you cannot, and allow Him who can control it take over; then you can release a whole lot of stress. Keep in mind that this isn’t a “Jesus take the wheel” type attitude. We still have to work hard. We have to do everything in our power. But the things that we simply cannot control, we trust that God will get it done. And the Bible tells us that if we are in his will, it will work out.
Commit to a Stress Free Lifestyle
Stress can be eliminated. But it takes a conscious effort to recognize it, recognize the source, and let go of what you cannot control. It takes practice, and it takes time. But eventually you can live a stress free lifestyle.
As for me, I’m a writer in Billings, MT. My stress free lifestyle is still a work in progress, but I have found a huge relief from stress when I simply recognized that there is no point in trying to control the uncontrollable events.